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"Should" is a word many use without thinking twice. It's one of the most common words in our vocabulary, yet it's also one of the most insidious. Too often, we fail to notice the extent of how our internal dialogue affects how we feel and show up in the world. It's time to explore the power of "should" statements and how they can be more harmful than we may realize. Why You Need a "Should" Detox We all have a little voice that likes to tell us what we should do or who we shou

When someone we care about is grieving, it can be challenging to know what to do or say. We might want to offer words of comfort, but sometimes our attempts at consolation can fall flat. We may feel eager to fix things or make the pain disappear, but grief isn't something that can be solved. Grief is a complex and individual experience, making the holidays an especially difficult time for those who have recently experienced a loss. So, if you aim to help a loved one navigate

Playing small usually means that you are dismissing what you really want out of life in order to live a more comfortable lifestyle with little risk. People who play small want a sense of security and control. If you are unsure if you are playing small, continue reading to find out 6 signs and what to do about it! If you want to talk to someone more about playing small, feel free to reach out to schedule a consultation for individual therapy. You wait for things to change on t

Judgment can be a deadly weapon in your relationships. We do this for many reasons and some are listed below. If you want to talk to someone more about judgment, feel free to reach out to schedule a consultation for individual therapy. 1. It can allow us feel superior Tearing other people down temporarily allows us to bring ourselves up. In that moment when we are feeling less than or insecure, we may find ourselves comparing our lives, thinking that we know what is best and

First dates can be exciting, nerve wracking, easy or even exhausting. When meeting a new romantic interest, it's all about the connection, vulnerability, desire, and communication. Although dating can be challenging, here are tips to help you succeed on your first date! If you are looking for more guidance on dating, feel free to reach out to me to schedule a consultation for individual therapy. 1. Present your authentic + best self Wear something that makes you feel both co

Narcissism exists on a spectrum. We all fall somewhere on this continuum. Some amount of self-seeking nature is healthy. Any personality trait that is taken to an extreme can become pathological and result in Narcissistic Personality Disorder. When it presents as maladaptive, it becomes problematic. It usually shows up as someone who lacks empathy, is entitled, arrogant, manipulative, needs excessive admiration/praise, and prioritizes themselves above all else. They often do

Being single when all of your friends are in a relationship can be hard. You may notice people are talking about their weddings, what they're naming their baby, and what couples friends they are going out with this weekend. It is common to feel envious, excluded, forgotten, or even frustrated by the couples in these situations. It could be due to life circumstances that the time you spend together with your coupled friends is more limited. Sometimes it’s grieving the relatio

Textationship: (n.) that person who is always there for you over the phone, but not in person. Sound familiar? Someone who texts you all of the time, but never makes an effort to see you in person? Or, if they do see you, they don’t give you the acknowledgement or respect that you feel you deserve? You might feel like your relationship is really going somewhere. You’re super comfortable with them and feel as though you can really open up to this person. But what happens if on

1. Anxiety can encourage productivity and increase your motivation Anxiety is a powerful motivator! Anxiety serves as a warning flag pointing towards something that needs our attention, motivating us to find it. Anxiety is a physiological feature; it is caused by the work of our adrenal glands and our sympathetic nervous system. As a deadline for work, school, or life approaches, anxiety can drive you to better prepare for it. You may be more motivated to consider all worst-c

Focus on what you can control. There are many things out of our control right now, and focusing on these things will not help your anxiety.

There are plenty of reasons to stop drinking, and all of them are valid. Maybe you’ve struggled with addiction, have a chronic illness, or take mental health medications. Maybe you are focusing on diet and lifestyle changes for other reasons. No matter why you choose to forego drinking, you should feel confident in that decision--and you should bring that confidence into your dating life.

When we talk about breakups, we usually think about romantic relationships, but breakups with a close friend can be just as important and hurtful.

Thanksgiving is coming up, and that’s just the beginning of the holiday season. Although the next couple of months will definitely look a bit different this year with Covid, there is one thing that will not change.

Many people only make the jump to seeing a therapist when they reach a breaking point or crisis, but the reality is that seeing a professional before you reach that point can actually be more beneficial for your long term mental health.